What to Do When You’re Married to a Passive Man
If you’re the wife of a passive husband, you know that it can be frustrating. You want him to take more action! You want him to take more initiative! You want him to be the man! Well, first, let’s...
View ArticleWhat to Do When Your Husband is Depressed
Helping your depressed husband is not for the faint of heart. {Tweet This} We know that. And we don’t want to make light of how challenging it can be. But we do have some ideas to help you help him,...
View ArticleKeeping Your Expectations Flexible in Marriage
Let’s face it: None of us knows on our wedding day what life will throw at us over the years. It’s great to have high, clear expectations going in. But it’s equally important to be able to roll with...
View Article5 Signs of a Bad Marriage
A few weeks ago, I was sitting on the sidelines at my daughter’s lacrosse game when I witnessed one of the 5 signs of a bad marriage unfold before me. A mother sitting nearby was cheerfully watching...
View ArticleA Simple But Powerful Prayer for Your Marriage
There are times in our marriage when we feel like so much is wrong, it seems like it will take years to unravel the mess and get back to something good. When we’re stuck in that mental mire, it’s hard...
View Article5 Things to Do If Your Husband Looks at Porn
There was a time when pornography was not a part of most men’s everyday lives. If a nice guy wanted to look at porn, he had to go into an adult bookstore or quickly ask for a “girlie” magazine in a...
View ArticleHow to Be Strong When You Have No Choice
As much as I love my husband, our children, and the life we have together, there have been times I was unable to be the rock they needed me to be. Sometimes it was my faulty heart (I have a pacemaker)...
View Article4 Excuses Women Give to Avoid Working on Their Marriage
Doing what’s right and healthy in a relationship can be hard. As a therapist, I have come across many people who get stuck and end up not doing their part to make the relationship move in the right...
View ArticleLet’s Talk About Marriage Communication
Communication is the glue that holds a marriage together. {Tweet This} But I can tell you that during our 25 years of marriage, there have been countless times when Mark and I have come a little...
View ArticleWhat To Do When Your Marriage Has Grown Cold
How can you tell if your marriage has grown cold? When your husband gets angry with you, you just take it. You say to yourself, It’s not worth fighting and I just don’t care. When you’re excited about...
View ArticleHow to Rebuild Trust in Your Marriage
Trust is a vital part of marriage. It can be shattered by broken promises, addictions, or infidelity. Unfortunately, as a therapist, I’ve had a lot of experience helping couples rebuild trust in my...
View ArticleSolutions to 5 Big Marital Issues
Good news! Most marital issues can be fixed—really! It only seems like they’re broken beyond repair. The key to fixing marriage issues is the combo approach of wanting to fix them and actually taking...
View Article3 Signs of a Self-Centered Spouse
You hear a lot of talk today about how entitled kids act. They seem to feel like they deserve more stuff, more deference, more freedom—often without more work. The problem with self-centeredness is...
View Article3 Ways to Watch Your Mouth in Marriage
I knew I was saying too much as the words came out of my mouth. I knew I needed to watch my mouth, end the conversation, and try again when I had a better grip on my tongue and my mind. But I didn’t. I...
View ArticleWhy You Need to Break Down Walls in Your Marriage
Many people have walls in their marriage. These emotional walls block their spouse from getting too close. They keep secrets protected and the ugly parts hidden. Walls give a sense that you are...
View ArticleShould I Get a Divorce?
As I was writing about a marriage issue for iMOM, I stumbled upon a question a lot of women were asking online — should I get a divorce? Before you answer that question, and before we give you our...
View ArticleCan This Marriage Be Saved?
Marriage struggles can be crippling. It often feels like living with a roommate and constantly wondering if it will ever get better. You may even question: can this marriage be saved? As a therapist, I...
View Article3 Signs You’re a Controlling Wife
My husband and I were picnicking with my daughter and her family one bright, sunny day in Colorado. My mood was upbeat. The crisp mountain air filled my lungs with refreshed energy as I lifted my...
View ArticleThe 5 Secrets Men Keep
I used to think men were pretty simple creatures– and that I could read my husband easily. But then I came across something written by marriage expert, author, and radio host Stephen Arterburn, and I...
View Article3 Easy Solutions for When Your Man is Being An Immature Husband
They pout when they don’t get their way. They scream when they’re overly tired. They refuse to listen when they’re angry. We must be describing toddlers, right? Umm, no. Unfortunately, that’s also the...
View ArticleWhat to Do If Your Husband is Watching Porn
Did you catch your husband watching porn or find porn sites in his browsing history? As a wife, I understand this can make you feel angry, hurt, betrayed, or discouraged among a range of other possible...
View ArticleWhat To Do When You and Your Husband Want to Vote Differently
He likes Trump; she doesn’t. She wants to vote for Hillary; he can’t believe it. Politics, especially in light of the recent climate, can affect relationships. This election cycle has been particularly...
View Article“I Love You But I Don’t Like You Right Now”: How to Improve Your Marriage
A friend of mine loves her husband. She knows he’s a good man overall, and a good father. He doesn’t have any glaring issues — no addictions, no affairs, no spending problems — but sometimes, she tells...
View Article4 Ways to Respond When Your Husband is Angry
A good friend of mine is married to a man with a quick temper. She says it’s not easy when he gets angry, especially because she still has children in her home. She describes her husband like this: “If...
View Article4 Communication Habits to Avoid in Your Marriage
As a therapist, I watch couples communicate all day, and often have to teach people how to undo their unhealthy communication habits. “I feel like he doesn’t even hear me.” “When we fight, we never...
View Article4 Simple Steps to Conflict Resolution in Marriage
Mark and I do not have a conflict-free marriage. In fact, as I watched this role play, in the conflict resolution video below, I was convicted because this exact scene just played out for real two...
View Article3 Communication Tools Your Marriage Needs
When my husband and I first got married, we really struggled to communicate with one another. He had a passive style of communication and was a verbal processor, while I processed everything internally...
View ArticleSolutions to the Top 5 Marriage Issues
My husband and I have experienced at least 4 of these 5 common marriage problems. If that’s you too, take heart: every marriage has issues. The good news is that by being proactive instead of reactive,...
View Article4 Ways to Overcome Problems In Marriage
I’ve been reading a really great marriage book (I’ll share the title with you at the end of this post). I wanted my husband to read it too, and he actually started it. After a few days I noticed that...
View Article3 Ways to Support Your Stressed-Out Husband
My husband has been stressed out lately. And it has gradually snowballed into other areas of our lives. His stress created stress for me, which also put pressure on our relationship. Then it felt like...
View ArticleBad Attitude: Is It Killing Your Marriage?
Can a bad attitude really kill your marriage? Yes! Attitude affects the way we communicate with our husbands; so if our attitude towards him is negative, then we will sound negative when we’re talking...
View ArticleFeeling Bored with Your Marriage? Here’s How to Change It
My friend’s grandparents just celebrated their 70th wedding anniversary. Seventy years together is quite the accomplishment, especially in this day and age. I imagine there must have been times during...
View Article5 Secrets Spouses Keep That Hurt Their Marriage
“Houston, we’ve had a problem here.” ~ Jack Swigert, astronaut on Apollo 13 The explosion seemingly came out of nowhere. The Apollo 13 spacecraft was in its second day of travel, cruising easily to the...
View Article7 Threats to Your Marriage
In his new book Kingdom Marriage, Tony Evans talks about a couple who came to him for marriage counseling. The couple came in with a handwritten list of problems that they needed to work out. As he...
View Article4 Ways to Fight Fair in Marriage
Mark and I recently did a weekend marriage conference. We had just completed a session about how to fight fair in marriage when a young, newly-married couple approached me during the break. The moment...
View Article8 Challenges Every Marriage Will Face
I have seen many newlyweds start their lives together under the blissful delusion that they will never face any problems in their marriage. Unfortunately, that is never the case, and not having a...
View Article5 Signs You’re Emotionally Mature
I should’ve known better. I was pretty old when I got married so you’d think I would’ve already learned to have something that’s very crucial in a good marriage — emotional maturity. Alas, I did not. I...
View ArticleIs This the Root Cause of Your Marriage Problems?
Have you ever thought that love and hate are two sides of the same coin? I might have at one time, but marriage has taught me a lot about love. Hate is not the opposite of love, being selfish is the...
View Article5 Reasons Husbands have a Difficult Time with Emotional Connection
Darren and Heather Turner never thought they would have marriage problems. After all, they were supposed to be helping other couples. Darren was a chaplain in the Army and Heather was involved with...
View ArticleHow to Survive Being Married to an Addict
A woman may stay married to an addict for many reasons. Maybe she’s afraid she won’t make it financially. Maybe she has young children and dreads taking them away from their father. Or, maybe she loves...
View ArticleFeel Like Giving Up? 9 Quick Reasons to Stay Married
A couple I know is getting divorced. Neither of them cheated on the other, and there were no big issues like addiction or abuse. The wife said the husband just wasn’t helping out when she was at work...
View Article5 Healthy Ways to Disagree but Protect the Relationship
As a counselor, I work with couples struggling in their relationship. Oftentimes, the reason they need a mediator is because disagreements have turned to defending their opinion instead of protecting...
View Article6 Ways to Respond When Your Husband Annoys You
Lately, when my husband gets home from work he goes straight to the couch where he opens his laptop and stays until dinner; and then after dinner, he goes back to the couch and computer until bedtime....
View ArticleDo You Think You Need to Call a Timeout in Your Marriage? (4 Things to Know)
A marriage timeout is different from the timeouts moms use in parenting. A timeout in marriage is more like a timeout in sports—a way to regroup, cool off, and think about how to move forward. “Take a...
View ArticleWinning the Battle in Marriage but Losing the War
There’s an old 80s song called Love is a Battlefield, and some days it feels like that’s true. Okay, I’m joking, but love, and marriage, can sometimes feel like a battlefield. In fact, having a strong...
View ArticleMy Husband Cheated
My husband cheated. “What? That’s not funny…wait…” Those were the first words I uttered when my husband confessed his unfaithfulness. I refused to believe it was real because MY husband would never do...
View ArticleOnline Affairs: The Struggle is Real
How did I get here? It was the question that reeled in my mind as I sat on my bed weeping. My husband’s side of the bed sat cold and empty. You see, eight months prior, I worked as a social media...
View ArticleWays to Tell if You’re Having an Emotional Affair
Have you ever caught yourself wondering if he is more than a friend? You aren’t having sex with him, but you feel closer to him than other guy friends. If this sounds like one of your friendships with...
View Article3 Mistakes I Made in My First Marriage
Was my first marriage a mistake? No. Did I make mistakes? Absolutely. In fact, as we were going through the divorce process and having some very honest conversations, I asked my ex-husband to tell me...
View ArticleTalking to Your Husband About His Time-Sucking Hobbies
Remember the weekends when you and your husband could do whatever you wanted? Ah, those were the days. He could play basketball with friends Saturday afternoon while you worked out and had girlfriend...
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